Hello all! I'm back after a super busy November and a sleep-filled December, and I have some great stories for you!
Check back soon to read about Shit-Stain Sven, Drooly McGee, updates on my Stage 4 Clinger, Johnny Softcakes, and a whole lot more!
Friday, December 16, 2011
Monday, October 31, 2011
Halloween
Happy Halloween, Merry Samhain, and Happy Celtic New Year!
A friend of mine had a Halloween party this past Friday night. It's a tradition for her and her hubby to throw this party, complete with an ice luge for shots (I want to be her when I grow up - she's so cool). The last couple years I wasn't able to go, but this year, finally, I made it!
Besides the drinking, Rock Band, boob flashing, and crazy costumes, one more interesting thing happened. I met a guy.
He's different from the type of guy I usually date (meaning he's employed, he's smart, and he's kind), but we have a lot in common and we spent a good amount of time talking Friday. But, because this is my love life we're talking about here, of course there's a catch.
He didn't ask for my number.
As I said, we talked during the party a few times. At the end of the night, it was me, him, the hostess and her hubby left. The hostess went to bed, and her hubby told us we were welcome to hang out at their house as long as we wanted. He graciously informed us of a couch that opens to a bed in the basement in case we wanted some privacy, as well as let us know we were welcome to watch tv, or put on a movie or some porn. Yep, he said porn. Love that guy, lol.
So, me and the cutie went into the living room and sat there talking for a while. We held hands. He had his arm around me. I had my head on his lap, and he was stroking my back. It was very innocent, but very sweet. After a couple hours we fell asleep like that, and I woke up with my head still on his lap in the morning.
When we left, he gave me one of those really long hugs that's more like someone holding you than hugging you. We both did the procrastination thing, where we said "Well, I should go..." a couple times without actually going. Told him I was really glad I had met him; he said "Me, too." And then we left, in separate directions.
I was doing the procrastinating thing because I was waiting for him to ask for my number, or at least say "I'll friend you on Facebook," but nope. Nothing. Nada. A big fat zilch.
I'll admit it; I'm confused. I really don't know why he didn't ask for my number, at least as a new friend. I'm disappointed, too. I like him.
The part that's killing me though is that normally, I would have said something about us hanging out, or getting his number, but I decided to not be the aggressive one this time, and let the guy do the "guy" thing. And then he didn't.
What the hell?
A friend of mine had a Halloween party this past Friday night. It's a tradition for her and her hubby to throw this party, complete with an ice luge for shots (I want to be her when I grow up - she's so cool). The last couple years I wasn't able to go, but this year, finally, I made it!
Besides the drinking, Rock Band, boob flashing, and crazy costumes, one more interesting thing happened. I met a guy.
He's different from the type of guy I usually date (meaning he's employed, he's smart, and he's kind), but we have a lot in common and we spent a good amount of time talking Friday. But, because this is my love life we're talking about here, of course there's a catch.
He didn't ask for my number.
As I said, we talked during the party a few times. At the end of the night, it was me, him, the hostess and her hubby left. The hostess went to bed, and her hubby told us we were welcome to hang out at their house as long as we wanted. He graciously informed us of a couch that opens to a bed in the basement in case we wanted some privacy, as well as let us know we were welcome to watch tv, or put on a movie or some porn. Yep, he said porn. Love that guy, lol.
So, me and the cutie went into the living room and sat there talking for a while. We held hands. He had his arm around me. I had my head on his lap, and he was stroking my back. It was very innocent, but very sweet. After a couple hours we fell asleep like that, and I woke up with my head still on his lap in the morning.
When we left, he gave me one of those really long hugs that's more like someone holding you than hugging you. We both did the procrastination thing, where we said "Well, I should go..." a couple times without actually going. Told him I was really glad I had met him; he said "Me, too." And then we left, in separate directions.
I was doing the procrastinating thing because I was waiting for him to ask for my number, or at least say "I'll friend you on Facebook," but nope. Nothing. Nada. A big fat zilch.
I'll admit it; I'm confused. I really don't know why he didn't ask for my number, at least as a new friend. I'm disappointed, too. I like him.
The part that's killing me though is that normally, I would have said something about us hanging out, or getting his number, but I decided to not be the aggressive one this time, and let the guy do the "guy" thing. And then he didn't.
What the hell?
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Confessions
I never thought I'd be the type of person who used sex as a way to feel important or special or loved. Used to roll my eyes and talk down about women who did that. Never thought I'd be that "pathetic". Apparently, I am.
The hard thing now is not to do it anymore. Just because I know it's not good doesn't mean I'm not going to want to do it. It's like a really destructive bad habit. I know why I do it; it's because my self-esteem is shit. I know all that when I repeat that bad habit, I feel like shit. So I go and do it again, with someone new. It's a nasty cycle.
Do I feel like all I have to offer someone is sex? Absolutely not. Do I feel like I have zero good qualities and I have to make up for it by being easy? No way. So why this lack of self-esteem?
I think a lot of it is just from the shit I've been through with guys in the last 2 years. I mean, yeah, I've had some awesome dates and met some great guys, but in between them there has been a lot of getting my hopes up and having them squashed. A lot of feeling like I'm just not good enough.
Good enough for what? Well, that's the zillion dollar question. Because I'm not really sure anymore. Feeling not good enough has been a recurring theme in my life, going back to my childhood. I was bullied and picked on, alienated and teased, and left out. It didn't help than my grade school was 1 class with 20 kids and we spent K-6th grade together. Once you were label "uncool" you were fucked.
In Jr. High I felt the same way. Less because I was getting bullied (although there are a few girls from Jr. High that I plan of beating the living fuck out of if I ever run into them), and more because I just didn't fit in. I was fat; I was awkward; I had three-inch thick over-sized glasses; I listened to heavy metal like my older sister instead of Paula Abdul, Madonna, and Michael Jackson. By the time I was in high school, I'd gotten used to putting my head down and hoping I could make it from one class to the next without running into someone who wanted to loudly inform me I was a fattie (as if I could ever forget).
College would have been great - if I hadn't gone to a private, preppy, small college where you were an outcast if you didn't go to the bars on the weekends, have an unlimited amount of spending money from Mommy and Daddy, and parade around in the latest Gap clothes every day. I didn't fit it, and by then it had gotten stuck in my head that it was because I wasn't good enough, thin enough, normal enough, fill-in-the-blank enough.
I thought that damn though was dead and buried, but it turns out I hadn't actually killed the monster, just sedated it for a while. And apparently all it took to wake the beast was a couple years of bad relationships and asshole guys.
So now I'm single, pushing 34 years old, and feeling like I'm not enough. Feeling like I don't have enough good things about me to keep a guy interested past the first few dates. Feeling like sleeping with a guy before there is an emotional connection is the only way I'm going to keep that guy interested long enough to form that emotional connection. But fuck, we all know it doesn't work that way. All I've managed to do is make myself feel worse and let a couple guys use me for sex.
Fuuuuck, that was a hard thing to write, hard to admit, but it's true. I say some guys are dickheads because they used me for sex. But the truth is, they pretty much had my permission to use me. I was offering it up, and all they did was accept it. Can I really blame them?
Well, yeah, I can, but only to a certain extent. The rest is my fault, and something I have to change about myself. I have to kill that self-esteem monster once and for all. And this time I'm going to behead that motherfucker.
The hard thing now is not to do it anymore. Just because I know it's not good doesn't mean I'm not going to want to do it. It's like a really destructive bad habit. I know why I do it; it's because my self-esteem is shit. I know all that when I repeat that bad habit, I feel like shit. So I go and do it again, with someone new. It's a nasty cycle.
Do I feel like all I have to offer someone is sex? Absolutely not. Do I feel like I have zero good qualities and I have to make up for it by being easy? No way. So why this lack of self-esteem?
I think a lot of it is just from the shit I've been through with guys in the last 2 years. I mean, yeah, I've had some awesome dates and met some great guys, but in between them there has been a lot of getting my hopes up and having them squashed. A lot of feeling like I'm just not good enough.
Good enough for what? Well, that's the zillion dollar question. Because I'm not really sure anymore. Feeling not good enough has been a recurring theme in my life, going back to my childhood. I was bullied and picked on, alienated and teased, and left out. It didn't help than my grade school was 1 class with 20 kids and we spent K-6th grade together. Once you were label "uncool" you were fucked.
In Jr. High I felt the same way. Less because I was getting bullied (although there are a few girls from Jr. High that I plan of beating the living fuck out of if I ever run into them), and more because I just didn't fit in. I was fat; I was awkward; I had three-inch thick over-sized glasses; I listened to heavy metal like my older sister instead of Paula Abdul, Madonna, and Michael Jackson. By the time I was in high school, I'd gotten used to putting my head down and hoping I could make it from one class to the next without running into someone who wanted to loudly inform me I was a fattie (as if I could ever forget).
College would have been great - if I hadn't gone to a private, preppy, small college where you were an outcast if you didn't go to the bars on the weekends, have an unlimited amount of spending money from Mommy and Daddy, and parade around in the latest Gap clothes every day. I didn't fit it, and by then it had gotten stuck in my head that it was because I wasn't good enough, thin enough, normal enough, fill-in-the-blank enough.
I thought that damn though was dead and buried, but it turns out I hadn't actually killed the monster, just sedated it for a while. And apparently all it took to wake the beast was a couple years of bad relationships and asshole guys.
So now I'm single, pushing 34 years old, and feeling like I'm not enough. Feeling like I don't have enough good things about me to keep a guy interested past the first few dates. Feeling like sleeping with a guy before there is an emotional connection is the only way I'm going to keep that guy interested long enough to form that emotional connection. But fuck, we all know it doesn't work that way. All I've managed to do is make myself feel worse and let a couple guys use me for sex.
Fuuuuck, that was a hard thing to write, hard to admit, but it's true. I say some guys are dickheads because they used me for sex. But the truth is, they pretty much had my permission to use me. I was offering it up, and all they did was accept it. Can I really blame them?
Well, yeah, I can, but only to a certain extent. The rest is my fault, and something I have to change about myself. I have to kill that self-esteem monster once and for all. And this time I'm going to behead that motherfucker.
William Gibson
My therapist says I have low self-esteem, and that by continuing to try and and make guys like me through sex, all I'm doing is setting myself up for disappointment, more hurt, and ore negative feelings about myself. But I wonder, could it be that I really AM awesome and that all the guys I've met are assholes?
Friday, October 21, 2011
Internet Guy
My BFF Amy found this at The White Sade and I had to share:
I died when I saw this. I was very tempted to find a way to contact this guy. I mean, not only is he 100% real (which is a huge plus since we all know what an embarresment it is to be caught making out with a life-size Ken doll, not to mention the unsatisfactory fact that he's missing his love stick), but he has a big TV (because you know what they say about a man with a big TV, don't you? Oh, er, me neither.), knows 15 of the 24 major guitar chords (that's more than half, bitches!), and he'll totally enjoy my favorite past-time: having a man eat tacko's off my big boobs while I watch cartoons! I mean, he really is perfect for me.
So if anybody out there knows who this guy is, please, please, give me his number. Because while some women dream of marrying a US President, all I want is a man who's touched one...twice!
PS You can find the original post from Sade here.
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| The man of my dreams. <3 |
So if anybody out there knows who this guy is, please, please, give me his number. Because while some women dream of marrying a US President, all I want is a man who's touched one...twice!
PS You can find the original post from Sade here.
Thursday, October 20, 2011
Clinger Update
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| Cpl. Maxwell Klinger from M*A*S*H |
In fact, he's just a sweet guy. He missed me in the way Misty suggested in the comments - he missed talking to me. Everyone together now: *awww*
We had a great time together, and have been texting every day since then. He texts every day just to say hi, and we've been talking a couple times a day. We're planning to get together again soon, and as corny as it sounds, when he said this morning that he missed me, I didn't heebie-geebie-creebie out because I kind of miss him, too. I miss him in the way that I had an awesome time with him, and I can't wait to see him again, and it's been 3 damn days already, and I'm probably the most impatient person you'll ever meet. I want to see him again, and I don't want to wait, but I have to, such is life, blah blah blah.
So yeah, I kinda miss him, too. And if that makes me the heebie-geebie-creebie inducer, well then, hand me a pair of night vision goggles cuz I'm gonna embrace it!
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
I have been noun'd!
I have always wanted my name to become a noun in relation to me and my awesomeness. You know what I mean, like "She's gave me The Haylah," (The Haylah being a kick-assey and un-fucking-believable sex move or a tough-ass-bitch take-no-shit move). And today, my dream came true. Today I was noun'd.
Woke up to a text from a guy friend (Mr. Tongue) that I've hooked up with in the past. We're not dating, we've never dated, but we have had some great sex.
Mr. T: Hope I didn't wake you. BTW could really use some haylah
right about now.
Me: You did, but that's OK, needed to get up anyhow. BTW what does
"need some haylah" mean?
Mr. T: Well, sorry it was morning and things are usually filled with
blood... haha in other words I needed some haylah.
Some sweet tasting haylah.
Me: lmao Nice. I've always wanted to get to a point where my name
was synonymous with sex!
Mr. T: Well if any name would be synonymous..your's would be it!
haha Psst.....wanna haylah? haha I can picture it now! xerox
is synonymous for copies. haylah is sex.
It's a proud day for me. And I'm sure Mom and Dad would be bursting with pride if I shared this news with them. In fact, maybe I should take out an announcement in the local paper. Ooh, better still, anyone got the number for Webster's?
Woke up to a text from a guy friend (Mr. Tongue) that I've hooked up with in the past. We're not dating, we've never dated, but we have had some great sex.
Mr. T: Hope I didn't wake you. BTW could really use some haylah
right about now.
Me: You did, but that's OK, needed to get up anyhow. BTW what does
"need some haylah" mean?
Mr. T: Well, sorry it was morning and things are usually filled with
blood... haha in other words I needed some haylah.
Some sweet tasting haylah.
Me: lmao Nice. I've always wanted to get to a point where my name
was synonymous with sex!
Mr. T: Well if any name would be synonymous..your's would be it!
haha Psst.....wanna haylah? haha I can picture it now! xerox
is synonymous for copies. haylah is sex.
It's a proud day for me. And I'm sure Mom and Dad would be bursting with pride if I shared this news with them. In fact, maybe I should take out an announcement in the local paper. Ooh, better still, anyone got the number for Webster's?
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